Friday, May 26, 2017

Nothing Personal !!

Have you ever come across this weird situation when having a conversation with your friends, colleagues or bosses in work place where they keep mention you not to take things personally. It may be a particular incident or a decision they have took or an action they are about to take.
They just want you not to take it personally.
I'm sure you must have got similar experiences.

Wow .. interesting right!  how can i not take something personally which is inevitably affecting my self. I really cannot understand this. May be my microscopic brain is not capable of handling the logic.
Going back to the original statement where you get advised not to take things personally, these people who tell you these stuff thinks that they have the perfect balance between the work life & personal life. These are the kind of people who tells you not to take personal issues to office and not to take office related matters home.

Well if you ask me i would say the whole work-life balancing thing is a big fat lie !
Bitch, i only got one life to live and i don't have split personalities to live two lives (work and personal) which is a mental disorder!

How can you divide things between work &personal life?
I earn from my job and i use my earnings to feed my self and pay my bills and i got in to my job and in current job role because of  what i study and practice as a person.
So how exactly can we draw a line and separate. I honestly don't understand.

If you take me as an example i'm a kind of person who get things done based on the priority level. you may see me working on my office projects on holidays and I may do my banking or shopping in office hours.

Even when i'm at office if i don 't feel like working, I may not work. I would rather work at night in my bed with the highest level of concentration.

So if you are telling me not to take work related stuff too personal, I might tell you to get your split personality ass to hell and give a blow job to the devil him self.

I mean seriously, for me everything which happens around me affecting myself is bloody personal. 
We are not some pre -programmed robots to live two separate lives from 8 to 5 and from 5 to rest of the day.

As humans we cannot do that no matter how hard we try . If you try to  do this by force, you will end up as a fake person who always wears a mask to hide your true feelings.

Lets be honest guys do you really think that you would be able to control your thoughts and be normal to a colleague who did a dispute to yourself and tell you that its nothing personal. You will probably just try to "act" normal. But actually you are not. That 's the human nature and its totally fine.

Another famous quote in cooperate is that "I do not have personal grudges with people, its all work"

My point is you can have as many grudges you want with people.But you cannot categorize them as work related or personal grudges!
Its quite simple either you have grudges over people or you don't.

In my limited span of 27 years in this pathetic world, what i can understand and what i believe is, you cannot take out your profession from your personality separately. In the same way you cannot take out your interests & your personal characteristics out separately from your profession.
All these are combined together as factors which define yourself. 
All these small parts come together to illustrate and interpret a one final product - which is you.

Again that 's my take on it... you all can do what ever the fuck you want with your miserable lives!!!

Wednesday, May 10, 2017

Happy Birthday Buddha !! (Vesak Special)

Yeeeeeeeees.... Soon before we could finish the laundry of our Awrudu Sarongs and Lungis here comes the Vesak!! 
It means more holidays. Two days of leave followed by the weekend. Dude that's why im in love with this awesome nation.

What comes to my mind when talking about Vesak? Well obviously free food or "Dansal" then the
colorful vesak decorations, lanterns ,"Thorans" across the cities and hot chicks dressed in white!

Oh shit..! I totally forgot about the Birth, the Enlightenment and the Parinibbana (passing away) of the Buddha. 
But who cares about that right...
 I might still go to the temple upon forcing of my parents with trying to recover from the hangover due to Pre- Poya evening drinkle which is very common among us Lankans.

One simple fact which I always  wonder from childhood is why do all the special life events of the Lord Buddha occurs in full moon days (Poya). Starting from Birth , renunciation, Enlightenment, the first sermon,Preaching special Sutras & visiting Sri lanka. All these events happened only on full moon days and we celebrate them as Poyas. 

hmmmm... interesting right, guess nothing special happened on normal days.
Well no offence intended, just trying to point out an interesting fact.

As usual media do their part tremendously well by pouring all the religious bullshit in to people's heads these couple of days. Its like they are trying to transmit the entire teachings of the Buddha (The full Thripitakaya) in a time span of two days one program after another.
Monks are the hot celebs these days & they have the highest demand which surpasses all the actors and politicians.

This is what i see as the most amusing part of the whole spiritual drama embedded with Vesak.
People try to gather virtue or "Pin" for them selves as much as they can in these couple of days by worshiping relics,observing Sil and stuff ,like if it is some kind of a race.
After a solid two days of overdosed preaching, monks go back to their temples exhausted and people carry on with their shitty corrupted lives continuing their sinful habits.

Well im no different in that sense. Im leading a sinful fucked up life my self not giving fuck about the after life, the heaven nor hell. Only thing is that i don't go behind those spiritual bullshit relating to any religion. Fortunately that works for me.

No matter how hard they try to establish the argument that Vesak expresses the spiritual aspect of the Buddhist,Im never going to buy in to that ever.
Its purely a cultural hype nowadays fueled by Buddhist authorities, Monks and Media.Im not telling that its bad or anything. Its kind of good to have a couple of days off from your busy schedules and experience some "dansals".in vesak breeze which comes only once a year.

I think Vesak festival is missing something here. I like to bring it up as an improvement area or a suggestion. why cant we have a unique food item which would be exclusive to Vesak.
Just like Awrudu, Ramadan & Christmas we should have special meals or food items specially for Vesak.
Rather than giving the same old ice cream ,kadala and rice dansals we could have dansals which gives this exclusive food. 

Well im just saying guys.. No matter how fucked up the world is we still have some luscious food all around. Should make the most of it while we are here.

Time to go Dansal hunting!!